Happily Ever Hereafter

"Am I Ready for Marriage?" is a Wrong Question

Marriage.MBA Season 1

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📋 How ready are you for marriage?
Take the free Marriage Ready Quiz → https://MarriageReadyQuiz.com

"Am I ready for marriage?" is actually the wrong question. 
And as long as you keep asking it, you'll never get a useful answer.

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Why "ready" or "not ready" is a false choice and what to ask instead
  • The framework that turns marriage readiness into something you can actually measure
  • Why a 20-year-old could be more ready than a 25-year-old, and how to know if that's you

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So one day, you can ask your future co-founder, your future husband:
"Will you marry me in Jannah?"

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SPEAKER_01

If someone tells you that they're not ready for marriage, believe them 100%. If someone tells you they are ready for marriage, believe them maybe like 60, 70%. Okay, that's pretty specific.

SPEAKER_00

I agree with Sana. I think if someone tells you that they're not ready for marriage, it's probably for a reason. Why do you think you're not ready for marriage?

SPEAKER_01

I don't agree with that. Rank up that marriage that MBA divorce proof your future marriage today. That's not the right premise.

Sharif Faizullah

The question is, how ready are you? Because it's on a spectrum. It is never about I'm ready or I'm not ready. Just the fact that you're 18, 20, you're biologically ready. You could reproduce a child. That doesn't mean you're emotionally and socially and intellectually and familially ready. So don't buy into that premise. Anytime someone says I'm ready, I'm not ready, don't buy into that. Like on a scale of one to ten, how ready are you? They say, Well, I'm at it too. Okay. Let's go through every single slice of readiness and let's score ourselves. Because sometimes we go with our gut, our emotion, and it clouds our judgment to the point we don't look at the things in an objective fashion.

SPEAKER_00

What if I am 20 and I do want to get married right now?

Sharif Faizullah

Take the marriage ready with so you get your score. That will give you a quantifiable way to like, hey, how ready am I for marriage? Because people would ask the question, Am I ready for marriage? Like, I don't think that's the right question to ask. Ask how ready am I? There is a framework we use compare, and it'll tell you, hey, C is for career, always opportunity, M is maturity. So like for each one, you will know exactly which area you have scored the lowest. Go and tackle those. Build skills on those, develop knowledge in those and awareness and all of that, inshallah. And your goal is to get to 80, 90 in that area, inshallah. Then you can confidently say, you know what? Even though I'm 20, I'm ready for marriage. Because it's not about age. Comparing A is one of them has to do with your health and you know, future children and all of that. But it's not about age. You could be more ready than a 25-year-old sister if you go through this process, inshallah.

SPEAKER_00

A marriage sweet spot, how do I find it?

Sharif Faizullah

That's exactly why you need to know your marriage ready score, because there is no one size fit-all answer. There isn't. A lot of people try to play this game by just numbers. But what I've seen from experience is that again, so let's say at 20, if you have a score of 80 or 90 in your marriage ready score, you are in the green zone. You are in the green zone. But let's say you are 25, which technically is in the green zone just in terms of age, but then your score is let's say 60, then I would say no, even though you're 25, you're not ready for marriage yet.

SPEAKER_00

What is the earliest you think someone should be implementing these steps or like familiarizing themselves with the concept of the book?