Happily Ever Hereafter

Why Muslim Women End Up With Mr. Wrong

Marriage.MBA Season 1

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Most women never see this coming. They meet someone, feelings start to build, and before they even ask the important questions, they're already emotionally attached. This is not a character flaw. It's a pattern nobody ever taught you to recognize.

In this episode, you will learn:

  • The real reason Muslim women end up with the wrong person
  • What connection before selection means and why it keeps leading to heartbreak
  • The two lists every woman needs before she starts looking

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I'm attracted to him. Let me get to know him. We start off with oh my god, what's your favorite color? And then we forget to ask the important question. What mistake am I making? Rank up at marriage.mba.

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Divorce proof your future marriage today. Connection before selection. This is the number one love mistake that most women make, Muslim and non-Muslim. This applies to everyone. So connection is what? That's your ability to build a bond and attach to a specific person at an intimate level. Selection is to choose the right person in the first place. The mistake most women make is that they skip the selection process entirely and dive straight into building a connection with a man. So this means falling for someone blindly before even considering whether he's potentially a good match for you. Now, can this cause heartbreak before marriage? Yes. Can this lead to disappointment after marriage? Also, yes. And it's not your fault. Unfortunately, growing up, nobody ever taught you about this whole connection and selection thing.

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Dating is so normalized. You're supposed to go out and find people and connect with them. You're consistently opening up your heart to that damage. We're not really selecting. It's like, oh, I'm attracted to him. Let me get to know him. And then we forget to ask the important questions. So instead, we start off with, oh my God, what's your favorite color? What's your favorite song? What do you want to do in your free time? That first initial step, we missed it. And nobody talks about it. Like I did not select them before I connected with them.

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The question is this how do you develop the skill of selection? Take a screenshot now, please. Dealmakers and deal breakers. Deal makers are positive qualities in a man you cannot live without. These are very high on your priority list. On the other hand, deal breakers are negative qualities in a man you cannot live with. These are your non-negotiables. No compromise on these ever. Now, if I ask you between these two, between deal makers and deal breakers, which one is more important? Right in the chat. Which one is more important? Is it deal makers or deal breakers? It is deal breakers. Because you're not gonna compromise on those. So you have to be more clear about your deal breakers than your deal makers. Imagine a guy with certain quality, characteristic, or trait that makes him really appealing to you. Someone who is worthy of pursuit as a candidate for marriage, someone who can potentially be a good husband and a good father. Can you think of at least one such quality, just one characteristic like that? Now, suppose a single man, six feet tall, with six pack abs and a six-figure income, has a certain characteristic, and because of that, you would never ever consider marrying him. What is that for you? Can you think of at least one thing like that that would completely turn you off about a guy? Write that down. This is not one static list you make once and that's it forever, you're done. No, no. This will grow and evolve as you grow and evolve. That's how you avoid heartbreaks and future divorces. And if it is a genuine deal breaker, walk away. What if he takes all the boxes? He doesn't have any of my deal breakers, and he has all my deal makers, but I'm just not attracted to him.